Power, Play, and Panties: A Beginner’s Guide to Bedroom Domination (With a Soft Touch)

ohbabeaz
Jul 28
2 min read

Ready to spice things up between the sheets—or silk sheets, if you’re feeling extra? Whether you're feeling bossy or bashful, exploring a little domination in the bedroom doesn’t have to mean whips and chains (unless you want it to). At Oh Babe, we’re all about turning up the heat your way—fun, flirty, and just the right amount of kinky.

Why Play with Power?

There’s something undeniably sexy about surrendering control—or taking it. Power play is about more than just who’s calling the shots; it’s a dance of trust, teasing, and connection. Even in its softest form, it can create deep intimacy and incredible anticipation.

Lingerie That Says "Obey Me" or "Take Me"

Before you say a word, let your outfit speak for you. A sheer bodysuit with lace detail can scream “Mistress with a mission,” while a barely-there bralette and crotchless panty combo whispers “I’m yours, do what you will.”

Oh Babe picks:

For the Dominant: Leather-look bustier with garters. Bold. Bossy. Unapologetic.
For the Submissive: Soft pink strappy set with satin ties—begging to be untied.

Flirty Domination 101: How to Take Control

Start slow. Think tease, don’t terrify. Some simple ways to ease into domination:

Command the room: Tell them what to wear (or not to).
Use your voice: Whisper what you’re going to do—or what they can’t do until you say so.
Restraint play: Silk ties, handcuffs, or even wrapping a pair of panties around their wrists. Yes, please.

Soft Submission: How to Let Go (Safely & Sexily)

Letting someone else lead can be incredibly freeing. If you’re new to submission, here’s how to lean into the pleasure:

Create a safe word: Sexy play still needs boundaries. (Pick something cute like "pineapple" or "merlot.")
Focus on sensation: Try being blindfolded while your partner explores your body. It heightens every touch, every kiss.
Let lingerie set the tone: Wearing something that makes you feel deliciously exposed can help you drop into that sensual surrender.

Add Toys to the Mix—Because Why Not?

A vibrating wand for the one in charge? Oh yes.
A soft paddle for just the right sting? Yesss.
A leash and collar set for roleplay night? You know it.

Ask us in store or book a private consultation—we’ll help you pick the perfect beginner-friendly items.

Final Word: It’s All About Play

Exploring kink should feel exciting, never intimidating. Start light, communicate clearly, and don’t be afraid to giggle between spanks. Your bedroom (or shower, or kitchen counter…) should be your playground.

Ready to play?Swing by Oh Babe and let us help you find your perfect power piece—from sultry lingerie to flirty restraints. We offer private consultations before hours if you'd like a little guidance, a little privacy, and a lot of inspiration.