Masturbation: Reclaiming Pleasure, Reconnecting with Power

Masturbation. Just the word alone can stir up a swirl of emotions—excitement, curiosity, guilt, shame, or even a sense of nothingness. For many women, especially those of us who’ve lived through decades of cultural conditioning, the act of self-pleasure has been clouded by silence and taboo. It’s often been framed as something naughty, secret, or unnecessary, when in truth, it's a powerful tool for self-awareness, healing, and pleasure.

When we are young, many of us were taught—directly or indirectly—that exploring our own bodies was something to be ashamed of. A stolen moment of curiosity quickly met with scolding or silence. The message was clear: "Good girls don’t touch themselves." And so, we learned to disconnect. We pushed away desire. We forgot how to truly feel ourselves.

But now, as women in our mature years, it’s time to change that narrative. It’s time to reclaim what was always ours—our bodies, our pleasure, our power.

Begin with Breath. Before a single hand touches skin, pause. Sit or lie somewhere you feel safe and unbothered. Let your eyes close and take slow, deep breaths. Inhale through the nose… exhale through the mouth. Let your mind drop into your body. Let everything else—your to-do list, your responsibilities, your worries—fade for just a little while. This moment is only for you.

Set the Scene. This isn’t about rushing to an orgasm. This is about creating a sacred space for yourself. Light a candle. Dim the lights. Put on soft music if it helps you feel more at ease. Lay on fresh sheets. Maybe even wear something beautiful, something that makes you feel sensual. Treat this time like a ceremony—because it is.

Touch with Intention. Let your hands explore slowly, with curiosity and tenderness. No goal, no pressure. Start by gently caressing your thighs, your stomach, your breasts. Let your fingertips awaken your skin. Feel the texture, the warmth.

Enhance the moment by incorporating a high-quality lubricant like silky-soft UberLube. Just a few drops can elevate your experience, allowing your hands to glide more sensually across your skin. The luxurious texture helps deepen your connection, making each touch feel more fluid, more intentional, more felt.

Then move toward your vulva. Touch the outer labia softly. Trace the creases, the curves. Marvel at how your body has changed, evolved, and remained exquisitely yours. This is not about judgment—it’s about discovery.

Look in the mirror, if you feel comfortable. Gaze at yourself not through a lens of criticism, but with reverence. You are a goddess. You are beauty. You are worthy of your own affection.

Skip the Toys (For Now). Before bringing in external tools, give yourself time to become familiar with every inch of your own body. Let your hands learn your rhythm. Listen to your breath. Hear your heartbeat. Let your body speak and listen.

This practice isn’t about “getting off.” It’s about coming home to yourself.

Release the Shame. You have nothing to feel guilty for. Touching yourself, exploring yourself, loving yourself—it is natural, healthy, and divine. Give yourself full permission to feel joy, to feel pleasure, to feel love for your own body.

Because when you reconnect with yourself, you open the door to deeper connection with others. You love more freely. You communicate your needs with clarity. You give and receive with an open heart.

You are not broken. You are not too old. You are not too late. You are ripe with wisdom, sensuality, and strength. Let your body remind you of that. Let your touch be a source of power and peace.

Reclaim your pleasure. Reconnect with your power. Fall in love with you.